Sex is in the air - Revisited

While I was on my traumatic holiday there was this very interesting subject floating around in my blog and I was begging the count (the voice of reason) to give it to me straight.

You see.. the count is a very irritating personality. With much too much insight in life and the people in it and the obnoxious habit of always cutting straight to the point and telling the naked truth. When I say naked, I mean naked. More honest than drunks or 3 year olds really. Scary.

He is famous for saying things like 'yeah I know you stopped smoking but god you did balloon' and 'are you sure she is your husbands she doesn't look like him'. The kind of remarks that stop a conversation and make people look meaningful at eachother while he looks blankly ahead seemingly oblivious to the impact of his remarks.

So.. knowing this, it is sometimes very handy to get a right honest answer instead of the PC (politically correct) one.

So.. when I said this about men wanting sex:

And I thought.. is this normal? Is this really what goes on in a man's mind even when I think they are genuinely interested in who I am and what I have to say?

And begged for a comment he sure delivered but I feel due to my holiday this got a bit snowed under whereas I think it has such valuable information in it. A *real* insight into a mans brain!
(Mind you, lets not forget this is the counts brain, I would be very interested in any other male opinions on this subject) Here goes, comments in red are mine:

OK, the voice from the Q continuum says this.

No, don't worry. This condition only impacts male mathematical geniuses with tendencies towards the schizophrenic - in Latin I believe it's called Nash-us John-eus. All other men desperately want to hear of your career at Douglas Rain, your family......your plans for DIY in the home......generally they want nothing more than to listen to your HD&A

So, I would love to know what HD&A is!

Applying the sarcasm filter to this paragraph.. you are saying they are just humouring me right?! In a "uh-uh, oh really, that is interesting" sort of way?

Or at least that's what I thought (must just be me!) until reading the headline in today's De Murphgraaf; 'EXCLUSIVE - MEN WANT SEX!' it screamed out in a shocking expose on the male of the species. What new findings will they discover next?

;-)

Yeah, thought so...

Each man is of course different but generally I would say the 'want sex' condition is always there. The extent to which it's apparent to you is determined by the ability of each male to rise above their genetics + hormones. Which is easier for some than others (depending on their own particular balance of intelligence/consciousness vs physical desire).......though there are also those who would rather just not even have to try to rise above it eg the internet dudes you refer to may fall into this category.

OK.. the want sex condition always being there is OK, I suppose I have that too although I can suppress it quite well with copious amounts of chocolate. :-) Age seems to be a factor in this as well.... the younger they are the worse they are in hiding the fact. The older they get the better they are in hiding the WANT SEX NOW feeling. The worrying thing is that here it says that the WANT SEX NOW is always there in the same fashion that only the filter in front of it changes. Hmmm....

In theory, declining levels of testosterone as the male get older should lead to some change in attitude and behaviour. Though I wouldn't really say this can be guaranteed...can you? ;-).

Well, I know from raw experience that age has nothing at all to do with it. That sex, especially NEW YOUNG body sex definitely triggers the WANT SEX NOW AT ALL COST button. Because I do think that has something to do with it hasn't it? The fierceness of the underlying WANT SEX NOW has to do with the newness of the object of passion hasn't it?

Or perhaps this 'it's how we are hard wired to be' reasoning is just a man-ist conspiracy intent on maintaining cave man type behaviour and convincing females that they can never hope for much of a change in this.

Neh I am sure that this is hardwired.. I have seen too many examples in my life :-) You poor souls can't help it.

What I don't understand though is why it is apparently such a taboo. If I would have known this straight out when I was say 16 or so I would have acted differently. I believed all that romance and being interested crap. Tsk! What a waste.

I think next encounter I will just say 'Shall we just skip the small talk and get to business' because I do believe one can have more meaningful conversations AFTER the event. Ahem. Sorry for the BMI moment children.

Or would that be too forward.. do we women have to pretend to not notice because we are hardwired to do so? Is it too threatening if a woman says 'ok, I know you are just talking to me because you want to have sex, so why don't we?' Would that take away the lust because the 'men are hunters' hardwiring is taken away?

Maybe the increasing amounts of Oestrogen being pumped into the environment will lead to some change in all of this over several decades.......don't think we are really seeing such an impact from this at the moment.......however, it might be in some way responsible for the degradation in the quality of male sperm.

Cavemen will be cavemen and as far as I am concerned that is absolutely fine. I approve of all those natural patterns as long as on the side I can do what I like to do. I think we need to start an awareness session though to awake women around the world to the fact that men really just want sex. I will make life so much more clear.

(All the comments due to jetlag I cut out, they can be read in the original comment. )
Thought I would leave this in though :-)

DISCLAIMER
The cynicism in the above comments in no way reflect the actual behaviour of Monsieur Dantès. He is a gentleman to the core.

And so you are. I know you would never just talk to a woman because you want sex.

Would you?