What a day...
It was great, today was sauna day.
Every once in a while, about 3 times a year my friend and I visit the sauna.
Oh no.. immediately drop any idea about 1 cabin and 1 swimmingpool.. this is more a sauna experience than just sauna.
This sauna has about 20 different cabins with sauna's and steamrooms of all different temperatures, herbs, humidity etc, there is something for everybody.
After each ritual of getting really hot and then really cold it is fantastic to sit in the leisure room and chill while drinking a nice glass of wine (bit naughty of course, should be only water or juice but eh, it is just so nice and decadent to drink alcohol in your bathrobe :-)) and have some good food.
And that is when it happened... quite close to me a nice young man (well I would class him as a boy really although he would probably not agree) looking very much like Brad Pitt, I could hardly keep my eyes off him but of course pretended to read the very boring magazine I had in my hands.
Luckily we were unable to find someone to bring us that nice glass of alcohol (in his case a beer which made him even more of a real man, all the Brad Pitt vibes vibrated even louder, amazing what things can have that effect) so we had something to moan about together, always nice to start up conversation.
He was absolutely fascinating.. talk about other planets... after his story about how he broke his leg in 15 places while snowboarding and caught in an avalanche I told him about being so proud that I could actually make it from point A to point B without hurting myself. He then shared how he loved parapenting (when I of course had to ask what that was) and waveboarding (well knew that one) so I shared my absolute hate for anything even close to sport.
As you can tell we were bonding nicely in the nothing in common whatsoever but blimey you are sexy sort of way.
Anyway he also said he was married and had a little baby.
Damn.
So.. we went our marry way. I thought.
My friend and I went to get our towels and I bumped into him. Phew.. hot in here...
Then we went into a sauna and 2 minutes later he followed, it was hot already but add Brad Pitt and it was really smouldering. Of course.. with his robe off he was even more perfect than I had imagined and felt VERY self conscious about my rubanesk figure sprawled all over the wooden bench trying to pretend I didn't notice him.
Well... I think it wouldn't have been more obvious if somebody would have shouted 'those 2 fancy eachother'. My goodness.. chemistry galore!
After a nice cold shower, one has to follow the rituals after all, I thought there you go, never gona see him again (after all, this sauna is more busy than Alton Towers in summer, the chance that you meet somebody twice or in this case thrice is not THAT big with so many different saunas available), lets go for my massage and forget it.
OK.. this is quite easy to guess isn't it.. how energies sometimes move together even if they don't want to? I walk to the massage department and bump into him again.. thank God he had his robe on that time. We were standing about 2 cm apart saying what a pity it was but that I was going home after the massage and all I could think was 'I really want to touch you now' which made making conversation quite hard. Told him thanks for the nice talks we had and he told me it was a pity I had to go. Yeah right!!
Pfff...
So.. surely that was it? I had a nice massage and went home.
Sure.. unfortunately that was actually it.. apart from the fact that right before I really went into the lockerroom to get dressed again I bumped into him AGAIN and I started to think that Eric or whoever was just having a laugh today.
This time all we could do really is look eachother in the eye and in my case think of what could be if I would just say my name and tell him I am on facebook.
Didn't though.. of all the ships that pass in the night.. he was one I would have loved to take a cruise on, with, in, under? Oh whatever... never gona happen... just sweet dreams...
Did I tell you he graduated at uni as a shipbuilder? :-)
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Monday, October 22, 2007
Living with Kevin..
...is fascinating.
He gives me such an interesting insight in a man's brain.
On a daily basis he tells me:
'Mum, I am a man, we do not understand subtle hints'
if I say things like 'Is there any cola left' :-)
How did he know I really meant 'can you get me some' :-)
I thought my communication was generally quite direct but I suppose I got Brittified! In Britland it is not done to be that direct I felt so my communication has become a bit more gentle, a bit more beating around the bush.
Kevin re-teaches me the Dutch way and I love it, there is nothing more healthy than to live with someone that age where they start to develop their own view of the world but still have those childlike properties like blatant honesty. It does help of course that he has my genes.
Anyway, beware, no more pussyfooting around, no more subtle hints, just... straight talking :-)
He gives me such an interesting insight in a man's brain.
On a daily basis he tells me:
'Mum, I am a man, we do not understand subtle hints'
if I say things like 'Is there any cola left' :-)
How did he know I really meant 'can you get me some' :-)
I thought my communication was generally quite direct but I suppose I got Brittified! In Britland it is not done to be that direct I felt so my communication has become a bit more gentle, a bit more beating around the bush.
Kevin re-teaches me the Dutch way and I love it, there is nothing more healthy than to live with someone that age where they start to develop their own view of the world but still have those childlike properties like blatant honesty. It does help of course that he has my genes.
Anyway, beware, no more pussyfooting around, no more subtle hints, just... straight talking :-)
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Calling Occupants of Interplanetary Craft
Well...
I have met the guy on the other planet.
VERY interesting indeed.
The conclusion is that it so does not matter if what you both want is the same, which I am happy to say was the case between us. :-)
Having said that.. I do think the level of feeling that you are walking on eggshells is a bit higher.
What I notice is that it almost feels like each planet use their own dictionary where words or phrases mean almost the same but not quite. A bit like a dialect where you can understand eachother most of the time but 20% of the time you need to ask 'what did you say' and in this case there was a lot of 'what do you mean by that' or 'why did that remark invoke that reaction' :-)
But also, fascinating, it is great to be able to take a peek in a world that is so not mine, where money is no object and a different 5 star hotel in another city each week a normality and to realise that the life I always thought would be so great because of the status, freedom and the decadence can actually be quite lonely and boring.
As he put it.. a room is a room, a bed is a bed and sometimes the desk is a bit nicer than in the other room but it is just a place to sleep. The novelty of the little shampoos, bath-gels and showercaps wears off very quickly as well apparently (can't imagine that so guess who is a lucky girl :-)) and personally I would get very frustrated of all the waiting for trains, planes and automobiles.
We are enjoying the intergalactic sharing though and I am enjoying every second.
So... Calling Occupants of Interplanetary Craft I am, I want to have peeks on more planets, it is good fun!
Resumes can be put into the comments of this blog.
I have met the guy on the other planet.
VERY interesting indeed.
The conclusion is that it so does not matter if what you both want is the same, which I am happy to say was the case between us. :-)
Having said that.. I do think the level of feeling that you are walking on eggshells is a bit higher.
What I notice is that it almost feels like each planet use their own dictionary where words or phrases mean almost the same but not quite. A bit like a dialect where you can understand eachother most of the time but 20% of the time you need to ask 'what did you say' and in this case there was a lot of 'what do you mean by that' or 'why did that remark invoke that reaction' :-)
But also, fascinating, it is great to be able to take a peek in a world that is so not mine, where money is no object and a different 5 star hotel in another city each week a normality and to realise that the life I always thought would be so great because of the status, freedom and the decadence can actually be quite lonely and boring.
As he put it.. a room is a room, a bed is a bed and sometimes the desk is a bit nicer than in the other room but it is just a place to sleep. The novelty of the little shampoos, bath-gels and showercaps wears off very quickly as well apparently (can't imagine that so guess who is a lucky girl :-)) and personally I would get very frustrated of all the waiting for trains, planes and automobiles.
We are enjoying the intergalactic sharing though and I am enjoying every second.
So... Calling Occupants of Interplanetary Craft I am, I want to have peeks on more planets, it is good fun!
Resumes can be put into the comments of this blog.
Friday, October 12, 2007
Apprehension
This internetdating is good fun you know.
But.. it does make a person slightly emotional unstable because of all the excitement :-)
It is almost time for another 'first time' meeting.
And this time it is as scary as exciting since this guy seems to come from another planet.
Did I tell you about my other planet theory? Generally you meet people because you for instance work at the same job, attend the same school, have your kids at the same school etc.
Most of the time when you meet new people in those areas of life you sort of know and understand them, they do jobs you can identify with (they work in just another office for instance and when they say their jobtitle you think oh yeah, heard of that). Maybe sometimes you will see people that are a bit different but then they do something you understand like make art and you can't help think 'loser'. :-)
And then sometimes.. you just meet someone and even though you have a nice conversation you think 'I can't seem to get onto your planet', their experiences in the world are then so different from yours that you just can't seem to identify but also can't walk away because it is as fascinating as it is weird.
I know that John and I suffered from that, people would look into our lives and we would just feel they could not get onto our planet. We know for a fact that we have been called weirdo's because of that which always made us titter because for us the way we lived was just right. But yeah, different from most.
:-)
So.. this newest internet dating meeting is going to be with a guy that I just can't grasp. I mean I am clever enough to understand what he actually does and where he comes from but I feel that when we talk we really really like eachother but also can't quite place eachother because we have never met somebody like us.
So I think.. this can go two ways can't it, we either love eachother to bits and can't stop sharing so we get a link between those planets or we look at eachother and think 'you're weird'.
Scary.. because then.. what do you do if you have been writing for months digitally and shared deep emotions (and things!) and look at eachother in real life and think weirdo? Do you grab yourself in the neck and say 'get over yourself, get to know the guy, you know he is nice'. Or do you say 'sorry, I don't feel the connection, I am going home'?
Or doesn't it matter anymore this actual physical meeting when you have connected in the mind?
So many questions, so few answers until it has actually happened of course :-)
Well... if nothing else this is going to be a very interesting social experiment!
But.. it does make a person slightly emotional unstable because of all the excitement :-)
It is almost time for another 'first time' meeting.
And this time it is as scary as exciting since this guy seems to come from another planet.
Did I tell you about my other planet theory? Generally you meet people because you for instance work at the same job, attend the same school, have your kids at the same school etc.
Most of the time when you meet new people in those areas of life you sort of know and understand them, they do jobs you can identify with (they work in just another office for instance and when they say their jobtitle you think oh yeah, heard of that). Maybe sometimes you will see people that are a bit different but then they do something you understand like make art and you can't help think 'loser'. :-)
And then sometimes.. you just meet someone and even though you have a nice conversation you think 'I can't seem to get onto your planet', their experiences in the world are then so different from yours that you just can't seem to identify but also can't walk away because it is as fascinating as it is weird.
I know that John and I suffered from that, people would look into our lives and we would just feel they could not get onto our planet. We know for a fact that we have been called weirdo's because of that which always made us titter because for us the way we lived was just right. But yeah, different from most.
:-)
So.. this newest internet dating meeting is going to be with a guy that I just can't grasp. I mean I am clever enough to understand what he actually does and where he comes from but I feel that when we talk we really really like eachother but also can't quite place eachother because we have never met somebody like us.
So I think.. this can go two ways can't it, we either love eachother to bits and can't stop sharing so we get a link between those planets or we look at eachother and think 'you're weird'.
Scary.. because then.. what do you do if you have been writing for months digitally and shared deep emotions (and things!) and look at eachother in real life and think weirdo? Do you grab yourself in the neck and say 'get over yourself, get to know the guy, you know he is nice'. Or do you say 'sorry, I don't feel the connection, I am going home'?
Or doesn't it matter anymore this actual physical meeting when you have connected in the mind?
So many questions, so few answers until it has actually happened of course :-)
Well... if nothing else this is going to be a very interesting social experiment!
Thursday, October 04, 2007
Sex is in the air - Revisited
While I was on my traumatic holiday there was this very interesting subject floating around in my blog and I was begging the count (the voice of reason) to give it to me straight.
You see.. the count is a very irritating personality. With much too much insight in life and the people in it and the obnoxious habit of always cutting straight to the point and telling the naked truth. When I say naked, I mean naked. More honest than drunks or 3 year olds really. Scary.
He is famous for saying things like 'yeah I know you stopped smoking but god you did balloon' and 'are you sure she is your husbands she doesn't look like him'. The kind of remarks that stop a conversation and make people look meaningful at eachother while he looks blankly ahead seemingly oblivious to the impact of his remarks.
So.. knowing this, it is sometimes very handy to get a right honest answer instead of the PC (politically correct) one.
So.. when I said this about men wanting sex:
(Mind you, lets not forget this is the counts brain, I would be very interested in any other male opinions on this subject) Here goes, comments in red are mine:
What I don't understand though is why it is apparently such a taboo. If I would have known this straight out when I was say 16 or so I would have acted differently. I believed all that romance and being interested crap. Tsk! What a waste.
I think next encounter I will just say 'Shall we just skip the small talk and get to business' because I do believe one can have more meaningful conversations AFTER the event. Ahem. Sorry for the BMI moment children.
Or would that be too forward.. do we women have to pretend to not notice because we are hardwired to do so? Is it too threatening if a woman says 'ok, I know you are just talking to me because you want to have sex, so why don't we?' Would that take away the lust because the 'men are hunters' hardwiring is taken away?
Thought I would leave this in though :-)
Would you?
You see.. the count is a very irritating personality. With much too much insight in life and the people in it and the obnoxious habit of always cutting straight to the point and telling the naked truth. When I say naked, I mean naked. More honest than drunks or 3 year olds really. Scary.
He is famous for saying things like 'yeah I know you stopped smoking but god you did balloon' and 'are you sure she is your husbands she doesn't look like him'. The kind of remarks that stop a conversation and make people look meaningful at eachother while he looks blankly ahead seemingly oblivious to the impact of his remarks.
So.. knowing this, it is sometimes very handy to get a right honest answer instead of the PC (politically correct) one.
So.. when I said this about men wanting sex:
(Mind you, lets not forget this is the counts brain, I would be very interested in any other male opinions on this subject) Here goes, comments in red are mine:
OK, the voice from the Q continuum says this.
No, don't worry. This condition only impacts male mathematical geniuses with tendencies towards the schizophrenic - in Latin I believe it's called Nash-us John-eus. All other men desperately want to hear of your career at Douglas Rain, your family......your plans for DIY in the home......generally they want nothing more than to listen to your HD&ASo, I would love to know what HD&A is!
Applying the sarcasm filter to this paragraph.. you are saying they are just humouring me right?! In a "uh-uh, oh really, that is interesting" sort of way?
Or at least that's what I thought (must just be me!) until reading the headline in today's De Murphgraaf; 'EXCLUSIVE - MEN WANT SEX!' it screamed out in a shocking expose on the male of the species. What new findings will they discover next?
;-)- Yeah, thought so...
Each man is of course different but generally I would say the 'want sex' condition is always there. The extent to which it's apparent to you is determined by the ability of each male to rise above their genetics + hormones. Which is easier for some than others (depending on their own particular balance of intelligence/consciousness vs physical desire).......though there are also those who would rather just not even have to try to rise above it eg the internet dudes you refer to may fall into this category.
OK.. the want sex condition always being there is OK, I suppose I have that too although I can suppress it quite well with copious amounts of chocolate. :-) Age seems to be a factor in this as well.... the younger they are the worse they are in hiding the fact. The older they get the better they are in hiding the WANT SEX NOW feeling. The worrying thing is that here it says that the WANT SEX NOW is always there in the same fashion that only the filter in front of it changes. Hmmm....
In theory, declining levels of testosterone as the male get older should lead to some change in attitude and behaviour. Though I wouldn't really say this can be guaranteed...can you? ;-).
- Or perhaps this 'it's how we are hard wired to be' reasoning is just a man-ist conspiracy intent on maintaining cave man type behaviour and convincing females that they can never hope for much of a change in this.
What I don't understand though is why it is apparently such a taboo. If I would have known this straight out when I was say 16 or so I would have acted differently. I believed all that romance and being interested crap. Tsk! What a waste.
I think next encounter I will just say 'Shall we just skip the small talk and get to business' because I do believe one can have more meaningful conversations AFTER the event. Ahem. Sorry for the BMI moment children.
Or would that be too forward.. do we women have to pretend to not notice because we are hardwired to do so? Is it too threatening if a woman says 'ok, I know you are just talking to me because you want to have sex, so why don't we?' Would that take away the lust because the 'men are hunters' hardwiring is taken away?
Maybe the increasing amounts of Oestrogen being pumped into the environment will lead to some change in all of this over several decades.......don't think we are really seeing such an impact from this at the moment.......however, it might be in some way responsible for the degradation in the quality of male sperm.
- Cavemen will be cavemen and as far as I am concerned that is absolutely fine. I approve of all those natural patterns as long as on the side I can do what I like to do. I think we need to start an awareness session though to awake women around the world to the fact that men really just want sex. I will make life so much more clear.
Thought I would leave this in though :-)
DISCLAIMER
The cynicism in the above comments in no way reflect the actual behaviour of Monsieur Dantès. He is a gentleman to the core.
Would you?
Tuesday, October 02, 2007
Whats love got to do with it
You know...
I think I have done it all wrong all my life.
You know this joke about women always waiting for a better train to come along and then missing out on nice experiences?
It is a lie! My experience is that we find someone, project our future on him and say MINE, I am done, lets have babies and live happily ever after.
The world changes though when you are not looking for a life partner to be forever happy with.
If you are just looking for 'love' and attention life gets a different color.
I put love between apostrophes because I start to seriously wonder what love is! You can not fall in love with someone within a few days can you? And surely love at first sight should be relabeled LUST at first sight right?
So.. if we got all that sorted out.. if love doesn't exist and all we experience in the beginning of a relationship is lust, why do we (women I think) then tend to stick to that one person immediately? At least that is what I have always done in the past.
I understand though, I think nature does that a bit in a 'find a man, procreate' sort of way.
And maybe that is where the difference is now, I have done my bit for nature, finished, got me the t-shirt and I am so not looking for longevity.
I now live according to the rule that what walks my path I will try. Mind you, trying can be in many different forms, mailing, dating, other activities I will not talk about to protect our smaller readers and things.
And I know that a few posts back I said something about how many mediocre men exist, I take it back, I actually ran into quite a few nice ones who all seem to be attracted by my 'I don't really want you always but just for fun' attitude.
It is a different ball game..
THIS was what they meant when they say play hard to get. From the moment I didn't want to be gotten (erhm is that English even!) I have been hunted, and it is so much fun!
So girls.. my advice.. let go of the idea that you are on the dating market for the goal you want to achieve, but look at it as an ongoing shopping spree where you know you want the first dress you saw but still go to 10 other shops to find something better, you can do it with clothes, why not with men!?
Disclaimer: Any anti male sentiment that can be derived from this post lives merely in your own imagination. I want the record to show I love men. And I love them to be hunters. Let the games begin.
I think I have done it all wrong all my life.
You know this joke about women always waiting for a better train to come along and then missing out on nice experiences?
It is a lie! My experience is that we find someone, project our future on him and say MINE, I am done, lets have babies and live happily ever after.
The world changes though when you are not looking for a life partner to be forever happy with.
If you are just looking for 'love' and attention life gets a different color.
I put love between apostrophes because I start to seriously wonder what love is! You can not fall in love with someone within a few days can you? And surely love at first sight should be relabeled LUST at first sight right?
So.. if we got all that sorted out.. if love doesn't exist and all we experience in the beginning of a relationship is lust, why do we (women I think) then tend to stick to that one person immediately? At least that is what I have always done in the past.
I understand though, I think nature does that a bit in a 'find a man, procreate' sort of way.
And maybe that is where the difference is now, I have done my bit for nature, finished, got me the t-shirt and I am so not looking for longevity.
I now live according to the rule that what walks my path I will try. Mind you, trying can be in many different forms, mailing, dating, other activities I will not talk about to protect our smaller readers and things.
And I know that a few posts back I said something about how many mediocre men exist, I take it back, I actually ran into quite a few nice ones who all seem to be attracted by my 'I don't really want you always but just for fun' attitude.
It is a different ball game..
THIS was what they meant when they say play hard to get. From the moment I didn't want to be gotten (erhm is that English even!) I have been hunted, and it is so much fun!
So girls.. my advice.. let go of the idea that you are on the dating market for the goal you want to achieve, but look at it as an ongoing shopping spree where you know you want the first dress you saw but still go to 10 other shops to find something better, you can do it with clothes, why not with men!?
Disclaimer: Any anti male sentiment that can be derived from this post lives merely in your own imagination. I want the record to show I love men. And I love them to be hunters. Let the games begin.
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And I thought.. is this normal? Is this really what goes on in a man's mind even when I think they are genuinely interested in who I am and what I have to say?